I read a great blog on Oprah magazine this morning on what everyone should master by the age of 40. I’m not 40 yet, but I know it’s just around the corner and I think about it sometimes…what should I be striving for by the age of 40? For me, fitness is a big thing. I have bad knees and hips and I don’t want to be hindered as I get older, so I’m always thinking on ways I can stay healthy and fit. I’m not there yet, though! It’s a daily struggle, but I know if I keep the goal in mind I can attain it.
However, the article was a little different. Here’s a snippet of some of my favorite quotes from the magazine:
How to Comfort Someone
We’re a block from a hospital, so in my 31 years here I’ve met many people who’ve just received bad news. If you see someone in distress, don’t hesitate to talk to them. Once you’ve heard their story, sometimes all you have to say is “I’ll be thinking of you.” Your words are more powerful than you think.
—Jimmy Vecere, bartender at 12th Street Irish Pub, Philadelphia
How to Make Conversation at Parties
First, get a drink. If it’s a cocktail, it’ll loosen you up, but even if it’s just club soda, it’s good to have a prop to hold if you’re feeling nervous. Next, approach someone—a person, not a group—and ask how he or she knows the host. After that, be authentic and interested and ask questions, and others will float over and join in. A good host will have considered the mix of people, so when you arrive, ask, “Who should I meet?” Most important: Even if you won’t know anyone and you’re feeling intimidated, you must go. Do not stay home. So many people are afraid that no one will talk to them and they’ll leave feeling awful—but has that ever happened to you? Me, neither. Usually I end up laughing and eating and drinking and making friends, and that’s what it’s all about.
—Marjorie Gubelmann CEO of Vie Luxe and society hostess extraordinaire
How to Make New Friends—at Any Age
I tell my patients, “Food, alcohol, and drugs are no substitute for a relationship.” If you’re lonely, do something about it. If you love the arts, take a course at your local community college. And if you can’t find a place to get involved, create one. Besides seeing patients several times a week, I’m thinking about starting a group where immigrantsand refugees can talk about their feelings. It’s important to be part of a community!
—Hedda Bolgar, 103-year-old practicing psychoanalyst and cofounder of the Hedda Bolgar Psychotherapy Clinic, in Los Angeles
Simple Ways to Look Polished
Start with a great haircut, neat nails, and well-shaped eyebrows (if eyes are the windows to the soul, eyebrows are the frames). Invest in a tailor—and in a few no-fail items that will help you look pulled together: a crisp white shirt, a pencil skirt, a great-fitting shift dress (just add shoes and go!), a tissue-weight scarf, and the perfect jacket. Whether it’s a black blazer with a structured shoulder and nipped-in waist or a little leather jacket that looks great over anything, the right jacket projects confidence. And isn’t that what polished really means?
—Adam Glassman, O creative director
How to Let Go of Anger
Anger is like a storm rising up from the bottom of your consciousness. When you feel it coming, turn your focus to your breath. Breathe in deeply to bring your mind home to your body. Then look at, or think of, the person triggering this emotion: With mindfulness, you can see that she is unhappy, that she is suffering. You can see her wrong perceptions. You can see that she is not beautiful when she says things that are unkind. You can also see that you don’t want to be like her. You’ll feel motivated by a desire to say or do something nice—to help the other person suffer less. This means compassionate energy has been born in your heart. And when compassion appears, anger is deleted.
—Thich Nhat Hanh, Buddhist monk and author of Anger: Wisdom for Cooling the Flames
How to Buy Great Wine
See if an expensive wine’s producer also makes a value bottle—it’s likely to be crafted with the same care.
Serve wine with food from its region. For pasta, look to an Italian bottle. For paella, go Spanish.
If all else fails, try Malbec from Argentina, Merlot from France, Pinot Grigio from Northern Italy, and Chardonnay from Australia. Pinot Noir pairs with almost anything. And you can’t go wrong with bubbly.
—Sheri Sauter Morano, Institute of Masters of Wine
How to Laugh at Life
The tap water hits a spoon in the sink and sprays you. You pull a window shade and it just keeps going and going. You can’t roll up a garden hose in any dignified way. You have to become a connoisseur of these events—”Wow, look at that, that’s great.” You have to hope that a higher power is saying, “That was a good one!” And that you’re sharing the divine pleasure it’s taking in your misfortune.
—Ian Frazier, author of The Cursing Mommy’s Book of Days
There’s 20 quotes, so if you loved these, then read more 20 Things Everyone Should Learn by the Age of 40.
My favorite was ‘How to Laugh at Life’. That was something I had difficulty with when I was a kid. My favorite phrase was, “It’s not funny!” But, having a loving husband and 2 awesome kids has helped me to open up to the craziness of life, and that there’s a lot to laugh about even when things don’t happen they way you think it should.
One last thing that I found online, a make-up tutorial for Women over 40. Enjoy!